Just a reminder: potting training isn’t about peeing or pooping, it’s about the potty. When something isn’t quite going right, our best philosophy is actually a question: what do they need to know about the potty to help solve this?
We can skip over actual potty training with modern approaches similarly to how we can skip over learning by memorizing- and as ya’ll know I do not do surface learning, I do root learning.
In some situations families have to skip these because losing diapers is an absolute must (cost, daycare charges, health reasons and many other situations) but all of the little things about potty training are actually times we get to guide our children into some of their first, most essential experiences of autonomy and confidence– and It’s important to remember that autonomy and confidence is built in how we respond to mistakes and learning processes, not mastery.
As we have seen in psychology these early experiences of our bodies and our ability to control and use them autonomously mold how our minds work, and our self concept well into adulthood.
Find success in mistakes and mastery, and if a child is pushing back on one area of learning the potty, find another area to focus on. My little has not mastered avoiding accidents or letting go of diapers yet- But wow- has she got toilet paper down or what!
April A. Reeves 